Eva Van Prooyen, MFT
"I help couples develop secure functioning relationships through understanding who they are, where they've come from, and and how early attachment and its effect on the brain and nervous system development, influence current experiences in relationships."
Life is better when your relationships are healthy; It feels good to know how to be a successful partner. Healthy, secure relationships are a source of vital energy, and our need to be securely attached is so powerful that it can get us through the hardest of times and help us float through day-to-day routines with ease, skill, and grace.
My work as a couple therapist is inspired and informed by over ten years of study with Dr. Stan Tatkin, developer of the PACT Institute - a Psychobiological Approach to Couple Therapy. I believe therapy should be practical and incredibly useful. My work is collaborative, and supportive, and I emphasize growth and self-awareness for the individual and couple as a way to become a successful and skillful partner, based on the belief that “life is better when your relationships are healthy.”
I blend warmth and humor, with an understanding of attachment theory and interpersonal neurobiology, to help couples make positive and enlivening changes in their relationship. I aim to demystify how partners get into trouble in their relationship and decode the way out so they can thrive in a more secure, lovingly connected experience together.
I am trained in and practice PACT - A Psychobiological Approach to Couple Therapy, which comes out of three areas of exciting cutting edge research:
1. Attachment Theory explains the biological need to bond with others. Experiences in early relationships create a blueprint that informs the sense of safety and security you bring to adult relationships. Insecurities that have been carried through life can wreak havoc for a couple if these issues are not resolved. When resolved safety and security is restored for the couple and the individual.
2. Neuroscience is the study of the human brain. Understanding how the brain works provides a physiological basis for understanding how people act and react within relationships. Some areas of your brain are wired to reduce threat and danger and seek security, while others are geared to establish mutuality and loving connection.
3. Arousal Theory (Biology) the moment-to-moment ability to manage one’s energy, alertness, and readiness to engage. This area of study allows us to learn how to help our partners and ourselves to keep the "smart part" of our brains online so we can be our best under stress. Otherwise, the "primitive part" of our brains make decisions without our permission and we make mistakes and misappraisals - this is usually what we fight about.