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I’m Eva Van Prooyen, MFT I am a licensed psychotherapist practicing in Santa Barbara, CA. I specialize in the treatment of anxiety, depression, and addiction. I have been engaged with cutting edge science for my field since 2001 and use it to help clients achieve long-lasting relief from painful and limiting symptoms. Get the help you deserve, contact me. https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/5e80f9a47d1cda25a9c4b54e/1593727877813-SWK78YEY4H54BVF2U2TJ/image-asset.jpeg Anxiety, Depression & Addiction Therapy in Santa Barbara, CA - Working Through Betrayal – Regret to Redemption When a betrayal has been discovered in their relationship, couples come to therapy feeling lost, disoriented, confused, and angry. They may even wonder if there is hope. 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